Have you ever experienced a lightness of being splendid and sweet, when you felt completely liberated- limber on your feet; clear in your mind & pure at heart? Perhaps not, because most of us allow our senses to become clogged, do what we are programmed to do & are unaware of even the life force that keep us alive. We are rarely totally in the moment.
If we watch ourselves & are mindful, we'll realize that most of our reactions do not arise from our core, our true being. We may be mistakenly led to believe that we are free & so are our gestures, thoughts, emotions, attitudes & beliefs. But more often than not, they come from someone else living inside us, perhaps our parents, or someone we've been deeply influenced by, whose opinions are so deeply ingrained in us hat they become part of our DNA. Not every such impression serves to benefit us. In fact a lot of what we imbibe ends up being detrimental to our growth & inimical to the expansion of our minds & we are oblivious to it. We would surprise ourselves if we ever make a mental checklist of the obsolete in us, or the morass that needs to be cleared, or what we actually want.
Most of us do what we do to gain approval & to satiate our innermost need to be loved. But in the bargain, we get pulled in all directions, pay heavily, make the most difficult compromises & trade our self respect meekly, merely for approbation. When that happens, we love ourselves even less, become increasingly different & lose out not just on self respect but the very validation we seek from others.
Obsessing over love or dwelling too much on the lack of it can make us a distraught that it dictates the way we think, work, communicate and lot more. Sometimes we are convinced that we don't deserve love & if we do, we are not getting enough of it. Then we go on overdrive, mollycoddling ourselves with others supplements & try to compensation for vacuum that we desperately want to fill.
So make decision of your own fate. And then reload yourself to lead a life on your terms, with your head held high…. I m still fighting to get this corrected for myself….to find the way to cherish & love myself, feel whole & open heart to receive love in the whole world.
Love & more...
Jyoti
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I can understand the thought, which you have put here for the consideration.
ReplyDeleteI believe that all this happens due to the values and beliefs, which are poured by our parents, since our birth. And when we are at the age where we can understand the society, we start adopting the ethnicity and customs. These ultimately become the way of our life.
You may abandon all the values, beliefs and tradition. You can throw them out of you life. But after that what ???
hmmm.. may be... but I guess apart from value n all there is lot more for which v always seeks approval...n sometimes just forget what v are.... thats when all confusion, questions, and the entire debate starts....
ReplyDeleteI cannt explain it man.... but there is something.... with which we need to fight n get that corrected......