Shock

Last night I stayed up in the state of shock when I come to know that one of my close friend got married all of a sudden……. Without informing any one. I talked to her few days back and there was no clue about her marriage or engagement at that time and today Suddenly…. I got this news, thanks to Social networks. I was not sure if it’s a joke or she really mean it. I felt so bad, she was the first one to get married from college gang and she didn’t even inform…… All short of bad things came in mind… “Bhaag ke Shaadi Ki kya usne”, “She don’t care to inform me…”, “Our friendship doesn’t matter or what??” “how can she do this” “Marriage in 3 days means what… is it a joke??”……Blah Blah……. With all this I felt that my head would explode.


Then I thought of leaving it all… and went to sleep to the sounds of the boggy creek and awoke with the rooster's morning call to arms. The sun is shining and the air is crisp. It's almost as if the city doesn't exist.

....deep thoughts….no signs of last night’s stress…. Everything was just like another story to me….. But may not be for someone….. Before I could even conclude any thing…… I got a call…….

On the other end it was my friend….. she explained the entire situation... half crying, little confused, somewhat uncertain and totally clueless… like an old Hindi movie everything was so filmy… but what appeared so melodramatic for me was a reality for someone.

At that moment I felt that being a girl is not so easy…. Even today you have to fight for your existence……. You have to fulfill every ones expectations….. Its how this world has programmed us…. First see what your parents has to say, then listen to your husband, then kids and by the time you feel you can live by your own ...without any ones interference…. Its life that leaves you and finally you never gets a chance to live for yourself.

Is this chain ever going to end??

Jyoti

One Life to Live

Cooking, Reading, sleeping, Chatting, Gyming……. press up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right…… B, A, Enter key, then right click then press up and down…… That was in nutshell my day!

But despite this non productive day I managed to get some Gyan n now I’m making it public for others… so guys enjoy this Gyan session n hope you take something out of it n make your life even better!!!!!

Have faith in your dreams and some day all of your wishes may come true…… Butterflyyyyyy flyyyy awayyyyy... make your dreams come true in one day, live your life cos you can't stay! Make it happen your own way!! 

LIVE every moment LAUGH every day LOVE beyond words!! n if u feel its complicated to laugh n Love here then just remember that…. God throws pebbles to get your attention and if you ignore those, she throws boulders... so make sure u don’t miss it this time! Don’t hesitate; Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step….. rest will follow…. Don’t wait for others approval, coz if you live to please others, everyone will love you, except yourself!

The key question to keep asking is, Are you spending your time on the right things? Because time is all you have…. don't worry about your past, or the future or the troubles they held just battle through the ones now and you'll be stronger……. Time is your most precious gift, you only have a set amount of it. Time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time…..! SO choose very carefully whom you want to give your precious gift!

And Finally Everything happens for a reason, each reason has meaning…. Its true we don't know what we have until it's gone but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives! 

So, be happy with what you have!

Jyoti

My new Look

I thought of getting a haircut… and tried hard to get a cut which suits me but alas all in vein… more styles I checked more I got confused. In this confusion I went to salon and sat on the magic chair. I gave her my hairs to work on… Because I can’t handle any more planning n confusion state;..... with only one instruction i.e. "work your art on my head and let’s see what you can come up with….." And I closed my eyes with complete faith in her or in confusion!!

I don’t believe in living life in the fast lane, I was taking my time and enjoying every second, I was smiling….. Excited to see my new look.

Yaaayyyyyyyyyy and finally I saw myself….. My new look was just awesome…. for few seconds I was not able to recognize myself.

Small change made me so happy and gave me this refreshing feeling n luk aieeeee.... It was great indeed... every small thing does matter as small can create difference.

Just have little faith, add new things to your life and things will change....... I've realized that life is what u make of it.... As each day is just another reason to smile... and so I am smiling...as life is good.... n this small change really worked for me.... =))











Jyoti

Ride

By far it is a proven fact that my memory is bad enough to remember names, faces and what not but there is one thing it never forgets and that is my childhood because I have stored that piece in my heart instead of my skull. So, here I am once again lost in those beautiful memories… It happened today when I went to airport to pickup Anjali… and thanks to Bangalore new airport facility we have to travel almost one and half hour in bus and till last time I hate this part the most…. But today when I was in that same red glassy ‘Vayurath’ (that’s what they call it here) with all modern amenities… and once again I was surrounded by memories. Which are confusing to understand as they make me cry when I remember times when I was the happiest person on this world but it makes me laugh on my tears… but it makes up my treasure.


When I was a kid, I used to go to school in our school bus. For years I used to get ready in the morning, wait at the bus stop with other kids, buy some chocolates by emotionally blackmailing mom, pick flowers (there was a "Jhadu wala phool ka paied" that I loved and still do. I visited it this time I was in Ahmedabad. It hasn't changed much… Just looked not as big as I remembered it as a kid. (Weirdly the same thing also happened with a tall uncle. I saw him after about 15 years and he didn't seem that tall at all)), play seven up etc. etc while waiting for the bus. With time we even discovered a magic trick to make the bus arrive if it was late. We wrote "bus aa ja" on sand with our shoes (the fact that the shoes got soiled didn't bother us at all. I love childhood). And magically the bus would arrive. I still believe in the power of wanting something to happen collectively. And it still works.

Yeah, so when the bus came, there was usually a scramble for "window seats". I remember the winning feeling when we(from the younger lot) managed to get a window seat. (However, we never actually remained on our seats. As soon as the bus started, the kids lined up along the aisle of the bus to experience the "superjump" on the numerous road bumpers all the way till the school.) And when we used to cross beneath that railway bridge and luckily if any train used to past at that time... then we all used to make wish. Which seems so funny today but I still did that this time when I passed under that bridge and it was fun to behave like a kid once again.... as if my whole childhood came in front of me in just a fraction of second.... Childhood is indeed precious for me among all other memories and thats why it will always stay in my heart :)

Anyways..... as usual, I have pretty much forgotten the thoughts with which I started this post. But it had something to do with the bus rides.

I decided to go in bus today….. It was a very very boring affair. Half asleep people. Nobody shouted or counted red maruti cars. I usually immersed myself in crossword puzzles or sudoku. But there was one sight for which I waited. There was a small cottage on the way. Quite old and shabby. It was built in the wonderful old fashioned design…. It reminds me of old cottage near my home….. Most of them near the camp area.. one near the temple with grass on its slanting roof. Most of them in ruins now. And it had sunflowers growing all around it. Bright yellow pretty sunflowers. A mere sight of them would make my day.

In Bangalore usually, there is no scope for such eye treats. I thought my journeys would be drab and boring. But haha.. I was proven wrong. Weather today was extremely nice and I was lost in dreams…

I love day dreaming.....

So much about bus ride...... OOOppphs...

Luv

Jyoti

Simplicity!

In this changing world only two thing are certain....Death & Change itself… but with time we have added few more things in this list of certainty… Taxes, Traffic jams in metros.... are just few to mention. But as change has become part of life…. Life has become more complex…. We have made even simpler things, complex and more complex.


But in all this complexity we have somehow missed the truth that, the simplest things are often truest…. In character, in manner, in style, in all things, the supreme excellence is simplicity. But still what we always seek is complexity……

Complexity in terms of working, living, looking at things, in taking decisions… even the way we project our image in this world has become complex… because this whole society believes in so called ‘Show-off’…. And the trouble with simple living is that, though it can be joyful, rich, and creative, it isn't simple. Even if someone wants to live simply, society won’t allow you to do so… and so even if you don’t want to you tend to live the way society expects you to be… and in doing so you forget who you really are and become who others want you to be like.

And what this is leading to….. in this process…..we have become a society which seems to have no thinking of its own it tends to follow trends, values, thinking’s of some other society which further follow it from some other society and thus forming a vicious circle of followers or second hander’s or simply 'Copy and do it philosophy'….. And because of which original thinkers & creative minds has become a thing which can only be found in stories.

We can incorporate this simplicity principle anywhere…. In our lives, in our thinking, in our work, in our behavior, in our looks, in our relationships. It may seem bit wired but in simplicity lays the true beauty and purity.

Why we forget that, Simplicity and originality is the base of this entire creation of God…so why to lose it for some cheap imitation or material pleasure….. As we simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness - weakness.

And as one of the writers has said, “Beauty of thoughts, Elegance in appearance may sound two different things but they have one thing in common…. Both can be achieved when everything superfluous has been discarded and person discovers the power of simplicity and concentration”….. The simpler, more sober, clear the thought or for that matter outer appearance becomes….more beautiful it is.

The Snow is exquisite because it has only one colour, the sea is lovely & attractive because of its blue texture which appears to be flat from the top but has so many secrets in its heart... same is true for snow….. Both are deep and know their own qualities. So is Simplicity….. It may appear straightforward but deep inside it has immense power of its own which can be realized one you accept it.

Simplicity is the final achievement. After one has played a vast quantity of notes and more notes, it is simplicity that emerges as the crowning reward of art.

Simplicity is the glory of expression. Simplicity is the nature of great souls. Nothing is true, but that which is simple. So lets be Simple in our lives and respect others simplicity......& create the difference.

Jyoti

Claptrap

Just thinking (Jyoti Chauhan thinks!), what to write… from last few days I have become a slow blogger… even though I have so many things in my diary which I can post here… but somehow I am too lazy for that…. Sloth is the Sin I commit almost every day.


But today when I decided to write something.....I had few ideas… but the moment I started writing nothing was coming out on the screen…. As if a blackout happened in my mind….Ooophsss…. I don’t know, why I am saying this.

If I don’t know what to write, why am I forcing myself to write? What the catch?? Am here to find it out. I think it’s to make up an image….but is this really a place to do so???? The way I want it to be? And by the way what are my plans to do. Why am I writing it here and not in my personal diary?

hmmmmm........ OMG so much for my little mind!!!

Is it because...with every passing day I am getting insecure and wondering about the significance of my existence on this planet....... I think so....I think writing anything down gives a sense of solidity and permanence. Writing here helps or at least gives a feeling that it’s going to help. Helps to make a space for yourself. Even if it just e-space. Permanence. Yes, each passing moment seems ungraspable. Permanence can only be brought with the help of friends, relationships, memories... and blogs (really or it’s just my insecurity making me think so... whatever but I can safely assume this!!)

Now that I am clear as to why am I writing, the next thing would be to write something…BUT, MEANINGFUL this time.......I guess I have written enough…. Claptrap for a single day!

Jyoti

Thoughts of the day!

Think with your mind and see with your heart...never think with your heart or see with your mind.... use the way they are placed by God or else face the consequencies!


Whenever you climb you are followed by a dog called 'Ego'

When our heart wins the battle against our fears, wonders lie ahead

Don't allow routine to transform you in someone you are not.

Only one thing makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure

Take your decisions with courage, detachment and touch of madness

Try to make your life as beautiful as flowers, but make sure it blossoms and spread its virtues!

Jyoti

Lackluster - yeah me!

A Sluggish day, started with this lethargic feeling…. Things went wrong from the very first moment…. And very first thing I told to myself was “Shit man! Not again everything is wrong here….. I am missing comfort of home”…. Any ways but this doesn’t bring any good….. Rather things got even worse and I was in this full irritated, quarrelsome, belligerent, aggressive… argumentative mood.


But thankfully it hasn’t lasted for long…. once I hit the gym I was again fully charged up… energetic…. Positive… that place indeed has some magic trick…. But only one thing I didn’t like was that once I come out from it all I need is food and more food………..! I literally was thinking about food for the whole day…. Even when I was working, gossiping, in meeting, in training…. Even while writing this!

I guess I have lost it all….n so I m finally once again going to have coffee to stop this hunger :(

Peace
Jyoti

GOOD FIGHT

Today I read a very touchy piece it’s from Paulo Coelho’s blog and I just loved it… so here it is in my blog. He is a great writer just love his writing style:



In 1986, I went for the first and only time on the pilgrimage known as the Way to Santiago, an experience I described in my first book. We had just finished walking up a small hill, a village appeared on the horizon, and it was then that my guide, whom I shall call Petrus (although that was not his name), said to me:


- We must never stop dreaming. Dreams provide nourishment for the soul, just as a meal does for the body. Many times in our lives we see our dreams shattered and our desires frustrated, but we have to continue dreaming. If we don’t, our soul dies


‘The Good Fight is the one we Fight because our heart asks it of us. The Good Fight is the one that’s fought in the name of our dreams. When we are young our dreams first explode inside us with all of their force, we are very courageous, but we haven’t yet learned how to Fight. With great effort, we learn how to Fight, but by then we no longer have the courage to go into combat. So we turn against ourselves and do battle within. We become our own worst enemy. We say that our dreams were childish, or too difficult to realize, or the result or our not having known enough about life. We kill our dreams because we are afraid to Fight the Good Fight.


“The first symptom of the process of killing our dreams is lack of time. The busiest people I have known in my life always have time enough to do everything. Those who do nothing are always tired and pay no attention to the little amount of work they are required to do. They complain constantly that the day is too short. The Truth is, they are afraid to Fight the Good Fight


“The second symptom of the death of our dreams lies in our certainties. Because we don’t want to see life as a grand adventure, we begin to think of ourselves as wise and fair and correct in asking so little of life. We look beyond the walls of our day-to-day existence, and we hear the sound of lances breaking, we smell the dust and the sweat, and we see the great defeats and the fire in the eyes of the warriors. But we never see the delight, the immense delight in the hearts of those engaged in the battle. For them, neither victory nor defeat is important; what’s important is only that they are Fighting the Good Fight.


“And, finally, the third symptom of the passing of our dreams is peace. Life becomes a Sunday afternoon; we ask for nothing grand, and we cease to demand anything more than we are willing to give. In that state we think of ourselves as being mature; we put aside the fantasies of our youth, and we seek personal and professional achievement. We are surprised when people our age say that they still want this or that out of life. But really, deep in our hearts, we know that what has happened is that we have renounced the battle for our dreams-we have refused to Fight the Good Fight.


“When we renounce our dreams and find peace, we go through a period of tranquility. But the dead dreams begin to rot within us and to infect our entire being. We become cruel to those around us, and then we begin to direct this cruelty against ourselves.


“What we sought to avoid in combat-disappointment and defeat-came upon us because of our cowardice. And one day, the dead, spoiled dreams make it difficult to breath, and we actually seek death. It’s death that frees us from out certainties, from our work, and from that terrible peace of Sunday afternoons.”

Good Fight is no doubt tough but not impossible. And this man speaks so nicely about it and I'm really moved by this and want to share with my dear ones so its for you guys and do appreciate the great man.


Jyoti

Hapiienueeerrrrrrr

SO its again the Resolution day….. As everyone knows I m a big planner.... so its time for me to make few plans for the year ahead….. N rest shall happen with action with correct motivation....as Motivation determines what you do.... Ability is what you're capable of doing..... Attitude determines how well you do it.. hmmm now if I could just get motivated! ;)


As I believe that a new year is more then just change in calendar N if you really want you can change your life with this little change and it is pretty much true for everything…. Just try it out it really works.

Therefore here is the list of my changes which I aspire to bring in with this calendar change:

Health n Happiness: This year I have promised myself to take myself less seriously n be more patient and happy as always because I blv that the reason people find it hard to be happy is they see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be….. But in this they some how forget that if we would look back on our tears someday we would laugh, but never really thought that we would look back at our laughs ... and cry! SO be Happy n live each moment of this precious life to its fullest as it is not going to come back again….. And happiness is not possible unless you r healthy as both goes hand in hand. so the mantra is be heatlhy, be happy!

Plan B.B: Everybody is weak. Everybody fails. Being strong is fighting. It's hard and it's painful and it's every day..... but it's what we have to do b’coz you cannot leave a footprint that lasts if you are walking on a tiptoe…. So this year I’m goanna work for that very mark n shall try to prove myself in that. This is my mission B.B. And I m sure it will work as my heart says so n it never lies! So wish me luck :)

Three things to remember: And finally there are three things in life that shouldn't be broken... hearts, promises & friendships :)

That’s all for now, hope this year brings fulfillment, peace and happiness to the whole world…. Have a great year ahead..... May the force of the mountain, the purity of fountain, the light of Sun... be with us, Amen!

01/01/10 (dope)

Jyoti