New normal

From childhood, we heard many times that outdoor play is so crucial for kids, but today, when everyone is staying in stress and isolation, outdoor play has taken a backseat. 

Kids now understand that it's better to stay at home than going out. The new academic year has started for many kids and they are getting accustomed to studying online and though as parents we keep on telling them to focus on what teacher is teaching, deep down we know that sitting in front of the screen and listening to someone is quite boring and staying focused is quite difficult. But still, parents do what parents need to do. 

Some helicopter parents want to make sure that their child gets full attention (even when the child doesn't want to say anything). so they are glued next to kids and studying again. 

Many times during these classes I seriously pray things to get normal soon, so that at least kids and teachers can have some uninterrupted time without a hyperactive parent around.

Kids also want parents to go away and leave them alone to learn without two people teaching the same thing and in the process making them confused. 

Today in creative writing class my seven-year-old son wrote a story about how a scientist found a cure of covid 19 and saved the world and I wondered if I am also in his list to get away with. Am I also monitoring him continuously and is it time to back off? 

Whatever the case may be but, one thing is clear it's not only us adults, even small kids want their freedom back.  

They don't want a cosseter around them to increase their trouble. They want to play with their friends without any fear and learn the old way while having fun. So, as parents, we should help them rather than making this transition tough for them.

Embracing Anger

 

We often think that anger is a negative emotion, being angry is bad and we should not show our anger. Anger is often the response of fear, excitement, and anxiety. It often comes from the body's flight or fight reaction. Hence anger is crucial for survival. 

But, holding on to anger for a longer period leads to a feeling of despair.

When we hold on to anger it consumes us so it’s always wise to let go of anger because holding anger affects our psychological well-being and quality of life, it takes lots of our energy, it can increase stress and eventually leads to many diseases.

Prolonged anger also affects our relationships with others; it has an impact on our health, our overall behavior.

Anger is an emotion so it should not be curbed instead we should accept and acknowledge anger and work towards our reaction. Because it’s not an emotion that is bad it’s how we react based on it that matters.

Also, we should not blame others for our emotions because when we blame we give away our power and we remain stuck in our anger.

Observe your anger and based on you observation function with maturity. Managing anger does not involve holding it in or avoiding feelings.

Finally, one thing we need to understand about anger is that when we accept it and let it go we begin the process of healing, and that leads to growth.

Don’t judge yourself and others based on anger. Anger is nothing but an emotion and like any other emotion, it is also not permanent. Let your thoughts flow and give yourself an opportunity to grow by accepting and healing.

Be unapologetically you!